The clients in the two sessions below have given permission to share the stories of their sessions.
The client was a woman who had recently retired from her job. She was very pleased to be retired and was looking forward to travel. She had two reasons for wanting a Life Centered Therapy session.
a. She worried too much about her adult daughter. Her daughter had a career and was living in another city. The woman knew she was fine but still worried about her.
b. She was distracted by an invitation from her ex, her daughter’s father, to rekindle their relationship. She wasn’t clear about her response to his invitation and she was occupied by it. I suggested that she was ‘unresolved’ about his offer. She agreed to that summary.
Our session was leading us to a female, in Asia, 14th century, working or living in a monastery (presumably Buddhist), with low social status, like a cleaner.
During her session her point of view was entering a room that was warm with a fire was and well lit. There was a man in the room, a monk. The client knew that the woman in the journey loved him and was pregnant with his child. They realized someone was coming and she hid under a table. She could see the two men though the tablecloth. She watched as the two men spoke and left the room. She had a sense that she remained under the table for a long time, the room grew dark and cold. She felt cold. The journey was complete.
The client said the journey was interesting but didn’t see the point, didn’t see the relevance to what she wanted to address. I repeated that she did the session because she was worried about her daughter and unresolved about her relationship to her daughter’s father. I asked her about the experience of the woman in the journey. An unmarried, pregnant woman, a sweeper in a monastery, who loves a monk that is not acknowledging their relationship, would probably be very worried about her unborn child. She would probably be unresolved about her relationship with the monk, who she loves, but he makes her hide under a table when someone comes, until she is alone and cold, in the darkness. The woman was surprised to see the similarities between her issues and the issues of woman in the journey.
I suggested that she hold the Asian woman in her heart, assuring her that while her life was hard, the woman (client) is living a good life, with a daughter who is safe and prospering. Perhaps the Asian woman would be comforted to know that it will work out, albeit over a very long time. She agreed to send the Asian woman love, even to another space and time. She agreed to get a picture of a fourteenth century Asian woman and keep it in her home to remind her to send her love and energy, and a sense that the Asian woman has a home and family who care for her.
I checked in with the woman a few weeks later. She was very focused on preparing for her travels. She was not worrying about her daughter. Her attitude toward her daughter’s father’s invitation was that it was his issue. She didn’t remember that she had been distracted or ‘unresolved’ about it.
A year and a half later I emailed her to ask permission to post the story of her journey. She said yes and shared the following information. “Retirement is great. I wouldn’t say that those old issues are gone but they do not trouble me. There was a minor physical issue as well, wasn’t there? Can’t remember what it was, just that it seemed to disappear and did not come back.”
We cannot confirm if the Asian woman in the 14th century was a real person or is a creation of her imagination. The client was no longer distracted by the issues she carried. She benefited from one LCT session.
This would have taken more time, energy, and money if we addressed this through talk therapy, and may not have been as effective. We would have spent sessions developing a trusting relationship. We would explore where the issues began, perhaps something unresolved from her family with her daughter and her ex, perhaps something unresolved from her family of origin, perhaps something else. We would experiment with different ways to let go of the issues, perhaps by completing unfinished material with her daughter +/or her ex, perhaps by using Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) to change her thoughts, perhaps by using Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) to re-pattern her nervous system around these issues. All of this would be part of a good treatment plan. It would all take however many sessions and the client would expend however much time, energy, and money.
Second Example of a LCT Session
The following LCT session indicates that by processing an unresolved trauma one can let go of behaviors that block our success and happiness. The woman (client) in the story has given her permission for me to post this on my website, to inspire other people to try different types of healing. Warning that the following story has disturbing content.
The client requested financial independence. She wasn’t making enough money and needed to make more income. She does a healing art form from her house. She doesn’t have a website, Facebook account, or online presence. She has an email address, only gives her email address to a few people, and checks her email inconsistently. She had business cards and brochures which she gave to her clients to pass on to other people they knew and trusted. She knew one specialized doctor who referred clients to her. Until our session she advertised only by word of mouth, asking her clients to invite others to receive her healing treatments.
We identified that the issue stemmed from a past life, a genealogical connection on her father’s side, 13 generations ago.
The physical sensations that came up were:
Right big toe - cold
Right groin - tight
Liver - tight
Stomach - burny tight
Right shoulder - tight
Right occiput - tight
The story she saw was of a little girl sacrificed in a ritual. The physical sensations corresponded to what was done to the girl, starting with cutting off her right big toe. It was scary and disturbing for the woman to watch and understandably horrifying and traumatizing for the child experiencing it. The purpose of these journeys is to see and process unresolved material. It is understandable that a child dying in a state of horror could not process her death.
When the journey was complete the physical sensations resolved. The woman thought that it was in the 16th century in the country of her family heritage. She thought the girl in the story was drawn away from her mom by a man the girl recognized. The woman thought the girl’s mother spent the rest of her life looking for her daughter and no one in the town told the mother what happened.
The woman identified that she had never wanted anything to do with Masons or any one who was a Mason (which was common where she grew up). She recalled from when she was younger, that if she found out that a guy she was dating was a Mason she would stop dating him right away.
She also identified that she had been living in invisibility. She said ‘I live in an invisible house on an invisible street’. The suggestion was that she remained hidden for her safety, potentially still experiencing trauma from being abducted and sacrificed as a little girl. Following our LCT session the woman put her brochure in the waiting room of the doctor that was referring patients to her. More people contacted her for treatments and her finances stabilized. The suggestion was that visioning the story enabled her to process the unresolved trauma of the abduction and sacrifice. She could separate herself from that story, acknowledge that she is living in the present time and is safe. She could let herself be seen, didn’t need to hide or remain invisible. She started advertising her services by putting her brochure in the doctor’s office waiting room. When we spoke about it recently she laughed that she is no longer hiding and since our session she painted her front door bright yellow.
She was, and remains, very pleased with the results of our work.